So I was on some personal time today when my thought as usual started running deep. When I say personal time, I may not necessarily be resting but I had enough time to let myself enjoy what I was doing with less worry about how much time i have to do that task. i allow myself enjoy the luxury of taking my environment in and noticing the little detail – you should do that too… it is fun. So, Let us start from the creation. God created a man first. Then he felt the man needs company and then, he created the woman. Well, since he knew there could be opposite, sex, he could have created the woman first then the man later. He could have created another man. Or created two women. But he did not do that. He did it in the best way.

There is so much confusion today as to whose responsibility is what. We see a lot of broken relationship here and there maybe because the man believes she is not whom he wants or she strangely feels she is not ready to get serious so the relationship has to be let off. The most annoying is Cheating. Why will a man or woman simply decide to do two or more at a time? There is so much garbage thrown around everywhere about how what should be which strangely, the youth in us wants to explore these chances even though we know they are vices.

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Remember that your best friend, what if you treat your partner as your best friend? Will it be so wrong to treat them as you would a person you do not want to loose? Some are lucky to have their partner treat them as best friend. Abrakadabra! The law of see finish comes in. Then you hear someone say I cannot continue because I know this person’s deepest secret. Hehehe. There was a story that trended on twitter sometimes back where this lady helped the guy to complete his education abroad with promises and all lovey dovey… meanwhile, the guy was secretly having an affair with a Nigerian girl and after the whole study abroad thingy, he came back to Nigeria to marry his Nigerian girlfriend without even a word of goodbye to his foreign gf – the reason, was she told him a secret he could not live with. You knew this and led her on emotionally, physically and materially sef, ah my brother! It’s not a new thing sha. This stunt gets more confusing when a guy knows his babe is playing around but wait! Who said I am not also doing same…. We call it being smart!

When men begin to mistreat women or when women treat men like “mugu”, I think there is a misplaced sense of purpose. If you ever feel like you cannot treat the opposite sex according to the purpose God had in mind as at the time of creation, please, let the relationship go. Do not wreck another soul in the pursuit of your own happiness. As much as you are a man, much more, she is a woman. There is no manual for living your life so it is not like operating a machine. There will be mistakes made, but more important lessons learned. Learn to forgive. Learn to say sorry and mean it. A relationship should not be like your box of clothes where you change them according to your mood.

Even in the time of creation, after Eve gave Adam the apple and his eyes ‘opened’ he did not neglect ‘Eve’. She was his better half. Neither did Eve decide to stick with the serpent. She didn’t leave her husband.